Archive for June, 2014

tantrums- is it really terrible twos?dealing w/ tantrums where spanking can’t work. Interesting.

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diva-tantrum

As I read about babies and how they grow, the one inevitable thing I always come along is the terrible twos. I knew I had to prepare myself, but I had sometime before I had to deal with that. So when my then 1 year 2 month old son started throwing tantrums, I was taken aback. I wondered if he was a genius, because they don’t start until they are 2 years right? Well we are now 1 year 5 months and still dealing with tantrums. When he started, I was tempted to go at it as my mother would, the ‘chapa’, spanking.

I had started chapa before he was 1 year because he started walking early and could understand simple instructions like No, that is not right, stop etc. and also the walking meant he could access corners around the house. So when he started playing with the oven…

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Really gives you something to think about.

The Real Full House

I received an email last week from Sarah. She’s a mom with a chronic illness. At some point in the future, she will need a liver transplant. If she doesn’t get one, she won’t make it.

In the correspondence, Sarah told me she was trying to live each day to the fullest. She shared that she was beginning to preserve her thoughts for her husband and daughter – just in case. She then asked me if there were things I would suggest she do now in the event she isn’t around ten years from now.

It made me stop and think.

As I pondered my response, I put some thoughts together on what I’d do differently had I known ten years in advance that Lisa would die.

 Dear Sarah,

 It sounds like you are approaching your life in a strong and courageous way. Of course, our situation was…

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fitndiscover

The Fashion for Peace Gala 2014 is slated for this weekend, on Saturday 31st at the Oval Rooftop, Westlands. Read more about it here. This will probably be the biggest and most glamorous fashion event of the year with locally reknown designers gracing the runway with their collections and a few others from the region. As expected, everyone is geared up for it with designers doing last minute touch-ups of their collections and all fashion enthusiasts shopping around for outfits to wear. But what exactly should one wear at a Red Carpet event?

We’ve seen the Oscars and the Golden Globes Awards where celebrities have been putting their best foot forward for fear of being listed in the ‘Worst Dressed Category.’ Stylists have been having an uphill tasks of ensuring their clients achieve the best look by liaising with designers to get the best fit for them. This years’…

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Interesting book for mums.

4 Mothers

Reading through the essays inThe M Word (edited by Kerry Clare of Pickle Me This)offered rare glimpses into the lives of many women imprinted in very different ways by motherhood.  Honesty seeps through them, along with incisive depictions of pains, prejudices, and (less frequently) the pleasures of motherhood.  There is layer upon layer here – no fluff – and the pages just keep turning.

My closest friends tend to be thinkers, and I’m lucky enough to have been part of some raw and real conversations about motherhood, so the intimacy of the stories presented in The M Word almost felt familiar.  Many of the mothers I know very well have deeply textured feelings about being moms, the kind that don’t fit into neat categories.  I have had my share of these, particularly but not exclusively related to the massive transition (inadequately) called my first pregnancy and birth.  Being…

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